TW – this is likely to annoy a few….. oh well, it’s not my first time
People judge me with their own preconceptions, anyone who really knows me knows I struggle with women only events, and days like IWD.
People make the assumption that I’m a hardcore feminist…….
The Oxford English dictionary defines feminist as “Of, relating to, or advocating the rights and equality of women”
Some “feminists” have become extremists and there can be a want for preferential treatment, rather than a demand for equality.
Women can congratulate each other on their success “despite being female”. This is damaging to the true feminists out there.
I do recognise that in the UK today there is still discrimination against women. And don’t even get me started on what’s now happening in the USA.
Ladies – if you really want to subtly challenge a guy on equality I have two favourite lines:
- Just because I don’t have a penis, doesn’t mean I can’t….. **fill in the blank**
And
- Even though I have a vagina, I still think my balls are bigger than yours…
And yes, I have used these in client meetings, not very professional? Oh well…. Try it – and let me know how you get on! It’s effective.
The infinite love and positive feminine energy is a huge benefit. Coupled with a level of empathy and emotional intelligence that is less common in the male population. If you use this to your advantage it’s hard to compete with.
I’ve not found success DESPITE of being female. I believe I’ve been successful BECAUSE I’m female:
- I can be very direct to the most masculine clients and it doesn’t get into a battle of testosterone
- I have huge warmth and empathy, I’m not afraid to show affection and care for the people
- I’m open and compassionate which means male clients can talk to me – I’ve had many a butch guy in tears over their business or personal struggles over the years – in confidence and without judgement
- I’ve recruited the best people – I won’t apologise that they are female
- I’ve created a business where women can have strong careers and also be there for their children and families
So guys – open your eyes to what a female can bring to your team and business. Some of the best businesses I work with have equal or majority female senior roles.
And ladies – don’t be jealous of another’s success – when you become successful yourself try to give back some of that back to society, by demanding equality and teaching your children the same regardless of their gender.
I have a disappointing level of highly successful female clients – something I would love to see change. So if you’d like to discuss taking your business to the next level then please get in touch.
And finally, before you start sending me texts and DMs guys – I’ve not forgotten, nor will I ever do, the key men in my life and my client bank who put their trust in me when I setup W and Co – some of you are true feminists too!